I love that you were able to catch yourself and noticed you had responded in a potentially unkind way and then apologised to the lady. If that happened to me (as the lady) I would have appreciated that so much, that would have made my day! It takes courage to say sorry.
I enjoy your reflections while at the beach, no matter what they are. There is a peacefulness about your writing, even between the "grumpiness" that is lovely. It's nice when our kids can get straight to the heart of the matter... I acknowledge you being able to own your mistake and apologize to the woman. That's the part that meditation and Buddhism helps with. You may still be grumpy, but you are able to own your shit. š¤
"Grumpy but own my own shit" - I think you have helped me find my first t-shirt logo to sell; let's go into business Janine! Thanks for stopping by and for your kind words.
I've totally had those moments where my brain completely misreads a situation and I turn into a jerk for no reason.
The real win here wasn't the apology (though good on you), but that you stopped the self-flagellation afterward. That's the hardest part! I also did the survey :)
My Hobbit often reminds me that his thoughts are liars who shouldnāt always be trusted. Heās right. Our thoughts are the result of years of filters d conditionings that we have to decipher and figure out like a cryptic code.
And your weekly reminders that the ocean salt water can wash and tumble the weeds out of the thoughts and bring the right ones back to the surface is exactly what I need every week.
Do you know that I live vicariously through your weekly ocean tales because I havenāt seen the ocean in over 7 years?
Awww, thanks for the mention in this post! I've been enjoying your writing as well. I think we're around the same age so lots of this resonates. You mentioned the over-reaction part, which I totally struggle with too - I have been exploring the world of hypnotherapy, because people say our subconscious drives around 90% of our behaviors / thoughts -- I haven't gone deep yet but had 2 sessions so far and I find it very powerful - people say you can make change more quickly than traditional talk therapy - here's a bit of my story if you're curious https://substack.com/home/post/p-156143486 And I agree that self compassion is super powerful! My therapist always takes a very compassionate stance with me - we are human! the fact that you're reflecting, learning and growing is wonderful. Cheering for you!
āSo dad why is that even though you do all this yoga nidra and Buddhism wishy washy nonsense, you're still just a grumpy old man?ā
Oh, out of the mouth of babes...š
Thanks for a wonderful reminder that kindness starts at home...to ourselves.
Thanks Jeanie
I clicked on the start Survey button but it just took me to your publication?! š¤
Yup, same here...
I love that you were able to catch yourself and noticed you had responded in a potentially unkind way and then apologised to the lady. If that happened to me (as the lady) I would have appreciated that so much, that would have made my day! It takes courage to say sorry.
Thanks Sophie. It wasn't my finest hour but I do believe in the power of a genuine apology to help in such situations.
I enjoy your reflections while at the beach, no matter what they are. There is a peacefulness about your writing, even between the "grumpiness" that is lovely. It's nice when our kids can get straight to the heart of the matter... I acknowledge you being able to own your mistake and apologize to the woman. That's the part that meditation and Buddhism helps with. You may still be grumpy, but you are able to own your shit. š¤
"Grumpy but own my own shit" - I think you have helped me find my first t-shirt logo to sell; let's go into business Janine! Thanks for stopping by and for your kind words.
I'm in! Happy to help. š
I've totally had those moments where my brain completely misreads a situation and I turn into a jerk for no reason.
The real win here wasn't the apology (though good on you), but that you stopped the self-flagellation afterward. That's the hardest part! I also did the survey :)
I wish you a good week ahead, friend.
Thanks for all that Neela. I agree the self-hatred thing is easy to slip into, but learning to be self aware (at bloody 51!!!) helps
Self awareness helps for sure.
I turn 48 this year and I am still work in progress. :)
I think we all are...
Thank you for the mention! And thank you for the reminder in this post to be kinder to ourselves, much needed š¤
You're very welcome Grace
My Hobbit often reminds me that his thoughts are liars who shouldnāt always be trusted. Heās right. Our thoughts are the result of years of filters d conditionings that we have to decipher and figure out like a cryptic code.
And your weekly reminders that the ocean salt water can wash and tumble the weeds out of the thoughts and bring the right ones back to the surface is exactly what I need every week.
Do you know that I live vicariously through your weekly ocean tales because I havenāt seen the ocean in over 7 years?
Awww, thanks for the mention in this post! I've been enjoying your writing as well. I think we're around the same age so lots of this resonates. You mentioned the over-reaction part, which I totally struggle with too - I have been exploring the world of hypnotherapy, because people say our subconscious drives around 90% of our behaviors / thoughts -- I haven't gone deep yet but had 2 sessions so far and I find it very powerful - people say you can make change more quickly than traditional talk therapy - here's a bit of my story if you're curious https://substack.com/home/post/p-156143486 And I agree that self compassion is super powerful! My therapist always takes a very compassionate stance with me - we are human! the fact that you're reflecting, learning and growing is wonderful. Cheering for you!
Thanks Alice for your mind words and thoughtful comments.. we're always growing and developing. Have a great week.
Yes I appreciate the path you're on!
I'm sorry about that Caitlin I'll message you...
Happy to offer virtual ocean tales every Sunday Teri šš